Let Go of What Can’t Love You

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Philippians 1:9-10 — I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding. For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.

I read something this week that made me go, “Huh?”

So, there was a study out of Arizona State University that looked at something called “material possession love.” They interviewed people about their favorite cars, computers, bicycles—even collectibles—and discovered that some weren’t just enjoying their stuff.

They were actually emotionally attached to it—giving it more time, attention, and affection than actual human beings. And honestly, I think that tracks, because we live in a world where people make a big deal out of stuff.

Your sneakers, your cars, your brand—none of those things are bad. But here’s the quiet danger. Possessions never talk back. They never disappoint you. They don’t require forgiveness. They don’t challenge you. They just… sit there and make you feel in control.

And that’s exactly why they’re so easy to love more than the things that actually matter.

In the Bible, when Solomon looked at everything he had built and accumulated (and he was the wisest and richest man that ever lived) he called it meaningless… a chasing after the wind.

Because stuff can be impressive, but it can’t love you back. Your phone won’t pray for you. Your car won’t sit with you when your heart is breaking. Only people can do that.

And more importantly, only God can. He can fill those deep places in your soul that keep reaching for something more.

Because nothing in this world—no possession, status, or achievement—was ever designed to carry the weight of your heart.

So, this is my hope…that your love would overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in the good stuff. Live for the things that really matter so you can live wisely until Jesus comes back.

You were never meant to love things more than people, or anything more than the God who loved you first. Today there’s an invitation to loosen your grip on what can’t love you back, and to turn your heart toward the One who can. Let your love land where it was always meant to—on people and on the God who loved you first.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What things in your life tend to receive more of your attention and affection than your relationships with God or people?
  • Have you ever looked to possessions, success, or status to fill a deeper need in your heart?
  • According to Philippians 1:9-10, what does it mean to “understand what really matters”?
  • In what ways can your love “overflow more and more” toward the people around you this week?
  • What is one practical way you can loosen your grip on material things and invest more deeply in eternal things today?
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Blueberries and Blessings Abound

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John 15:4 — Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me.

It’s funny how something so small can change everything.

Back when my kids were still small enough to fit their hands inside old coffee cans, summer meant one thing: blueberry fields. When I think about it, I can almost feel the sun on my shoulders, hear the cicadas, and see their little fingers turning purple before we’re done.

We’d pick until the cans were heavy, sneaking a few along the way. Then we’d head home for the real work — washing, sorting, and freezing. We stacked bag after bag away to last us through winter. Blueberry smoothies, muffins, oatmeal… we ate them with everything.

And you know, at the time, it just felt like a sweet tradition.

Now I hear how something as small as a cup of blueberries can benefit your heart, your brain, and even your focus within hours.

Like I said, it’s amazing what little things can do.

One of the most important ‘small’ things we can do is stay close to God. Jesus said it’s like a branch staying connected to a vine. It’s not about striving, and you don’t always see it right away—but the branch quietly receives life and nourishment from the vine.

That’s where I tend to miss it sometimes. I look for big moments that feel significant. But most of my days are made up of small choices where I’m turning my attention back to God, whispering prayers, or choosing faith when it would be easier not to.

It doesn’t feel like much.

But neither does a single cup of blueberries.

Small, consistent choices in faith aren’t insignificant—they’re formative. Over time, they’re how strength is built, quietly and steadily.

So maybe today isn’t about doing more. Maybe it’s about staying connected. Staying near. Staying open. Like a branch that doesn’t try to produce fruit, but simply refuses to disconnect from the vine.

And over time, often without even noticing, something in you begins to grow.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What are some small, daily habits that help you stay connected to God?
  • Do you ever find yourself chasing big spiritual moments while overlooking consistent connection?
  • What might “remaining in Him” look like in your everyday routine?
  • Where are you tempted to strive instead of simply stay connected?
  • What is one small step you can take today to turn your attention back to God?
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Lessons Baked by Love

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Hebrews 6:10 — For God is not unjust. He will not forget how hard you have worked for him and how you have shown your love to him by caring for other believers, as you still do.

Flour had a way of finding everything in my grandma’s kitchen—even places you wouldn’t expect.

She was my mom’s mom—and she was my person. I grew up on a chair pulled close to her counter, watching her hands move with a kind of calm confidence. She ran a catering business when I was little, and she taught me everything—how to measure, how to trust your instincts by tasting as you go, and how to fix what doesn’t turn out right.

Years later, with my own boys underfoot, I found myself doing the same thing. There would be flour on the counter, timers going off, and little hands trying to help. I even started a small cake business for a season.

The best part was spending time in the kitchen with her.

I’ve realized those memories were never really about sugar, butter, or ooey-gooey desserts. They were about the kind of legacy you build by pouring into others.

When you bake with your kids or grandkids, they’re picking up more than recipes. They’re learning patience, follow-through, and how to connect.

It becomes something that lasts—long after the moment is over.

Scripture tells us that God is not unjust—He does not forget the love we show Him by caring for others.

And now, looking back, I can see it clearer than I could then—none of it was small. None of it was wasted. Every quiet hour, every small act of care, every unseen moment of showing up… it all mattered. And God hasn’t forgotten a single one.

So maybe today doesn’t have to be impressive to be meaningful. Maybe it looks like staying a little longer, letting it get a little messy, or making space for someone to slow you down.

Because long after the kitchen is cleaned and the last of the flour is gone,the love that filled the room is what stays with you the longest.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What are some “small” acts of love or care you’ve shown that might feel unnoticed right now?
  • How does it encourage you to know that God sees and remembers even the quiet, unseen moments?
  • Who has poured into your life in a way that shaped you more than you realized at the time?
  • Where might God be inviting you to slow down and invest in someone today?
  • What kind of legacy are you building through your everyday actions?
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Peace That Overcomes Panic

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Proverbs 19:23 — Fear of the Lord leads to life, bringing security and protection from harm.

Life can flip in one second.

One minute you’re planning your day. The next minute you’re in an ambulance.

That’s what happened to my friend Laura. She had a heart attack recently, and when you hear the word “heart attack”, everything in you tightens because we all know what that can mean.

But here’s what I need you to hear today. God did a miracle.

Doctors ran the tests. They checked everything, and there is zero heart damage. None!

I mean, we’re all stunned. It’s the kind of outcome that makes medical teams pause and say, “We don’t see this often.”

And I keep thinking about something Scripture says: “Fear of the Lord leads to life, bringing security and protection from harm.”

Now that doesn’t mean people who love God never walk through scary moments. Clearly Laura did. Sirens still sound. Ambulances still roll. Hospital rooms still fill with worried families.

But something deeper was holding her. Reverence for God anchored her soul in a way that nothing could shake. And when life flips in a second, that kind of foundation matters.

Because the truth is, we don’t get to control when the ambulance shows up. But we do get to decide where our hearts rest before those moments ever arrive.

Nothing—not fear, sirens, or hospital rooms—can take away the peace God gives. Because when you fear the Lord by loving Him well and anchoring your hope in Him, the outcome is peace. And that peace isn’t based on your circumstances.

It’s rooted deeper than that.

So, maybe today you feel like something just knocked the wind out of you. Maybe your world feels shaky.

But what if this is your reminder? Look to our holy and mighty God, and keep living for Him. Because the same God who protected my friend Laura’s heart is holding yours right now too. That peace is not fragile, friend.

It’s unshakable.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • When life feels uncertain or scary, where does your mind go first—fear or trust in God?
  • What does “fearing the Lord” look like in your everyday life right now?
  • Can you think of a time when God gave you peace in the middle of a difficult or unexpected situation?
  • What would it look like to anchor your heart in God before the next hard moment comes?
  • Is there something in your life right now that feels shaky? How can you invite God into it today?
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The Road Paved with Redemption

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Romans 8:28 — And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

You drive on it every day, and you don’t even think about it.

You know the stretch I mean—that strip of road under your tires on the way to work, to class, or to the gym. It just looks like asphalt. Flat. Ordinary. Nothing worth noticing.

But here’s something pretty wild.

In places not far from us, like Dallas, Texas, they’re doing something different. Engineers are taking melted-down plastic—the same single-use bags and water bottles we toss without a second thought—and blending it into asphalt. Eight to ten percent of the binding agent is replaced with what most people would call trash.

In one single mile of road, they’ve used about four and a half tons of plastic waste. Four and a half tons.

That’s not aesthetic. That’s not trending. That’s not main character energy.

That’s redemption.

Here’s the crazy part.

When they mix that melted plastic in, it actually makes the road stronger. They’re more resilient in extreme heat, and better under heavy traffic.

Kind of like rebar inside concrete—reinforcing it from the inside out. So the thing that looked useless, the thing headed for a landfill, is now holding up thousands of cars every day.

And I can’t help but think… that sounds like you and me.

We’ve been labeled a lot of things. Too sensitive. Too anxious. Too distracted. Too much.

What if the very things the world calls weakness are the things God wants to use as reinforcement? The heartbreak you didn’t ask for. The anxiety you didn’t power through. The mistakes you wish you could delete—like a post from 2018. Been there.

What if that isn’t landfill material? What if, in the hands of God, it becomes structure?

What if the pressure, the heat, the plastic pieces of your story you would rather throw away are the very ingredients God is working together into something unexpectedly good—something stronger than it would have been without them? Not just the polished parts. All of it.

Maybe you needed to hear that today.

You are not waste. You are not throwaway. You are not defined by what tried to break you.

You’re being built into something sturdier than you realize. And somewhere down the road—literally and spiritually—someone else is going to travel safely because of what God reinforced in you.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What part of your story have you been tempted to see as “waste” instead of something God can redeem?
  • How does knowing that God can use all things—not just the good parts—change the way you view your past?
  • Where might God be strengthening you right now through pressure, hardship, or discomfort?
  • Is there a situation in your life that feels meaningless or frustrating? How could God be working through it for good?
  • Who in your life might one day benefit from the strength God is building in you right now?
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Quit Chasing What Changes

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Isaiah 54:10 — For the mountains may move and the hills disappear, but even then my faithful love for you will remain. My covenant of blessing will never be broken,” says the Lord, who has mercy on you.

The world upgrades itself while you’re not looking.

I’m standing inside a McDonald’s that barely resembles the one burned into my memory. Touchscreen kiosks glow. Orders appear on screens. Nobody really talks anymore. It’s all faster. Smarter. Updated.

And I can’t help but think about 1974.

Back when McDonald’s sold paper gift certificates in little booklets. My mom bought some for me. I remember the feel of them in my hands. Mom would grin and say, “I’m going to hide these so well, you’ll never find them.”

Here’s the problem.

She hid them so well that to this day we still haven’t found them. We’ve laughed about it for years. Somewhere out there, there is a Happy Meal waiting with my name on it, but those certificates are probably dust by now.

It makes me think about how much of my life I’ve spent chasing what is sure to change and expire. Trends. Approval. The next upgrade. The next version of me that finally feels like enough.

But here’s what I’m learning: God’s love never expires.

God promises that even if the mountains crumble and the hills slide into the sea, the faithful love of God will not change. His mercy toward me is not fragile.

Everything else updates. He doesn’t. His grace doesn’t glitch, and it doesn’t expire at the end of the fiscal year. It was paid for long ago, and it remains.

I may never find those McDonald’s certificates, but do you know what? I’ve found something better. And friend, maybe today, instead of chasing what keeps changing, you can take comfort knowing that God’s love is the same today, yesterday, and forever too.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What are some things in your life you’ve been relying on that you know are temporary or constantly changing?
  • When life feels uncertain or unstable, where do you usually turn first for security or comfort?
  • How does the promise of God’s unchanging love challenge the way you think about your current circumstances?
  • Can you recall a time when everything around you shifted, but God remained faithful? What did that teach you?
  • What would it look like today to rest—not in what changes—but in the love that never will?
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Not Condemned but Loved

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John 3:17 — God sent His Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through Him.

Can I tell you about a moment most of us know too well?

I know I have done this recently.

You know, you mess up. Maybe not publicly. Maybe nobody even knows, but you know, and your brain goes straight to, “Oh, of course you did this. You always do this. God’s probably disappointed too.” And suddenly faith feels less like freedom and more like waiting for judgment.

But friend, I want to tell you that is not the gospel.

Everybody quotes John 3.16, but John 3.17 says, “for God did not send His son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved.”

Not condemned, friend, but saved.

Somewhere along the way, a lot of us picked up this idea that God is hovering. Jesus did not arrive carrying a clipboard of charges against you. He came delivering mercy.

Look at who He moved toward—the outsider at the well, the tax collector in the tree, and the woman caught in shame. He stepped closer when others stepped away. He restored before He rebuked. He called people forward instead of writing them off.

God’s posture toward you is not rejection. Neither has it ever been embarrassment.

It is love.

You are fully known with all of your doubts, habits, questions, and parts you keep hidden. And yet, you are still fully loved.

Faith is not a courtroom. It’s a rescue. And that’s exactly why Jesus came — not to condemn, but to save.

You are not on trial anymore. You are being invited into freedom.

And maybe today, instead of bracing for disappointment, you could take one small step toward the One who is already stepping toward you.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • When you make a mistake, what story do you usually tell yourself about how God sees you?
  • How would your daily life change if you fully believed Jesus came to save you, not condemn you?
  • Is there a part of your life where you’re bracing for judgment instead of accepting mercy? What would it look like to bring that to God today?
  • Who in your life might need to hear the truth that God is for them, not against them? How could you share that hope this week?
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A Better Chapter is Coming

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Psalm 52:9 — I will praise you forever, O God, for what you have done. I will trust in your good name in the presence of your faithful people.

April 11th is circled on my calendar, and I find myself smiling every time I see it.

That is the day my Anthony is getting remarried.

If you’ve ever walked with your child through heartbreak, you know a date like that carries weight. There were years that felt very heavy for him because he walked through a horrible, horrible divorce. The kind where you’re on the phone late at night and you hear it in his voice—the heartbreak, the disappointment, the questions.

As a mom, I wanted to fix it. I really wanted to rewrite the story and fast forward to the happy part.

But I couldn’t.

But what I could do was pray. I could trust God and keep reminding my son who he was when he started to forget.

And now here we are. He is about to stand at the altar again, not rushed or reckless, not trying to prove anything. He’s steady and certain and relying on Jesus. And, you know, something I really appreciate and respect about this younger generation is that you guys don’t just bounce back. You process, you heal, and you choose carefully because you want something that lasts.

My Anthony did that.

As April 11th gets closer, I find praise rising up in me before I even see the full picture. I am learning to thank God for what He has done, to hope in His name, and to say out loud that His name is good—even before the vows are spoken.

Because God never asks us to control the story. He asks us to pray and to trust Him with it. So yes, on April 11th, I won’t just be watching Anthony get remarried. I’ll be watching God prove He was writing a better chapter the entire time.

So, if you’re also in the middle of a chapter you didn’t choose, keep trusting. Keep hoping in God’s name. Keep praising Him before you see the ending.

Because He is faithful to turn heartbreak into hope when we place the story in His hands.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • What “date on the calendar” are you waiting for right now?
  • Where have you wanted to fix something that only God could heal?
  • How have you seen God remain faithful in a long or painful season?
  • What would it look like to praise God before you see the full outcome?
  • Are you willing to speak about God’s faithfulness openly, not just privately?
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