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Kindness in the Crossfire

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Ephesians 4:31-32 — Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

You know, there’s a different kind of sting when someone doesn’t just hurt you, but they actually criticize you to a boss, coworker, or friend.

They didn’t come to you first and say, “Hey, I didn’t like the way you handled that.”

They went around you and over you.

I experienced that recently. And I have to tell you, I felt it deeply. I felt blindsided. Betrayed. It got to the point where I didn’t even want to be in the same room with them.

But here’s what the Holy Spirit keeps whispering to my heart:

“You don’t have to win this. Just represent me.”

He reminded me that as a Christian, I’m called to put away the things that grow sharp inside me—bitterness, anger, and offense. And in their place, choose a different way—a way that looks like kindness when it’s not deserved.

Jesus understood what it meant to be misrepresented too.

People twisted His words. They questioned His motives and talked about Him instead of to Him. And still—He didn’t lash out. He didn’t scramble to protect His image. He stayed anchored in something deeper than public opinion.

So, here’s the hard truth I’m learning: you can’t control how they handled it, but you can control what it grows inside you.

Being Christ-like doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt. It means refusing to let the hurt harden you. You’re choosing to stay free instead of becoming bitter. Because when you honor God, the victory shows up in the moments you refuse to plant bitter seeds.

So today, if something happens that stings, I want to encourage you to pause before reacting. Let the wave of emotion pass. Then deliberately choose who you are going to represent in that moment. Even at the heart level.

Lay down the need to be right and pick up kindness… tenderhearted… forgiving—just like you’ve been forgiven. Lean into compassion. Choose forgiveness—even if it’s one step at a time.

Because the real victory isn’t proving a point. It’s protecting your heart.

When you refuse to plant bitterness, you make room for something better to grow.

And that changes you.

 

A MOMENT TO REFLECT

  • When someone hurts you, what tends to grow in your heart first—bitterness or grace?
  • Is there a situation right now where you feel misunderstood or misrepresented?
  • What would it look like to “represent Christ” in that situation instead of defending yourself?
  • Are you holding onto offense that is beginning to harden your heart?
  • What is one practical step you can take today toward kindness or forgiveness?
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Living Beyond the Hurt

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Ephesians 4:31-32 – “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Some men age by the calendar. Bruce Seaver aged by what he survived.

He doesn’t talk about it much, but he was 31 when they shot him out of the sky. The year was 1965, and the Vietnam War had no end in sight. What followed wasn’t strategy or tactics—it was just survival. Bruce spent over seven years in captivity.

His is not the kind of story people expect. There’s no big climax, no revenge, and no sweeping rescue. Just long days, empty stomachs, and a slow-burning resolve. Faith, Bruce says, is what kept him sane.

When he finally came home in 1973, the word “hero” followed him like a shadow. He still squirms when he is called one.

“No,” he said, voice even, “I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. The real heroes are the ones who didn’t come home.”

He could’ve come back angry. Some did. But Bruce chose to leave bitterness behind. Back home in West Monroe, he didn’t lash out or preach. Instead, he hugged his wife, kissed his daughters, and started living again.

In a world that insists that bitterness is strength and paints forgiveness as weakness, Bruce showed a different kind of courage. It’s one the world doesn’t quite know what to do with. He said it best: “I just want to focus on time gained, not time lost.”

At ninety-one, he still swims thirty minutes every morning—not to outrun the past but to stay grounded in the present. And maybe that’s the truest kind of hero: the one who is mistreated and never lets it twist his heart.

So, friend, what might it look like for you to stop clinging to what hurt you and choose what heals instead?

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Lighten Your Emotional Load

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“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Ephesians 4:31-32

Shakespeare nearly broke my back. Not the man, of course, but thebook. In college, I was required to haul around this behemoth that held every word the man ever wrote. I am not exaggerating when I say it weighed more than a cast iron skillet.

I spent weeks dragging it around campus. My back was aching. My shoulders were sore, and eventually, it broke the metal fastener on my bookbag.

It got me thinking about the things we carry. Sure, a bookbag breaking is no big deal, but what about the emotional weight we drag through life? Those grudges we hold, those deep hurts we refuse to let go of—they are far heavier.

And unlike a book, they do not sit quietly in a corner. They grow heavier the longer we carry them, pulling us down, sapping our joy, and making everything harder.

God has a better way, though. Forgiveness, I have found, sounds like such a simple word, but it can feel like climbing a mountain barefoot. It takes time, especially when the pain cuts deep. But little by little, letting go of those burdens lightens the load.

And choosing freedom over bitterness, my friend, is worth it.

So, what about you? Is there something you have been carrying around that you are not meant to hold anymore? You were never made to live weighed down. It is time to let it go, piece by piece, and let God carry the rest. You might be surprised how light life feels when your hands—and your heart—are free.

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