Proverbs 16:9 – The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
I thought I knew exactly what God wanted me to do. Bible school—it made perfect sense. I had the passion, the calling, the dream.
I could already see myself there sitting in class, buried in Scripture, and surrounded by people who wanted to serve God too. It felt so right.
So I chased it. I filled out the forms, picked up extra shifts, and prayed the kind of bold prayers that come trembling out of the heart, and for a while, everything seemed to be falling into place.
Until it wasn’t.
One thing after another began to unravel. A door closed. Then another. And another. The dream that once felt close enough to touch now seemed a thousand miles away.
I told myself it was just a delay, not a denial. But deep down, I was frustrated. I’d done everything “right,” and it still fell apart. People would say things like, “It must not be God’s timing.” I knew they meant well, but it didn’t help much.
One night, I sat on the front steps in the quiet, staring at the streetlights, just trying to make sense of it all. I had no words left to pray. My heart ached from wanting something so good so badly.
And then, somewhere in that stillness, a thought came that changed everything.
Maybe God wasn’t holding back or punishing me.
Maybe He was protecting me.
Maybe what felt like the end of a dream was really the beginning of trust.
It took time for that truth to sink in. But when it did, I began to see how those closed doors were good. God wasn’t ignoring me. He was redirecting me toward something better than I had planned.
And truth be told, nearly a decade later, God did open the door for me to attend Bible school at just the right time.
Something I have learned through all of this is that surrender isn’t giving up. It’s simply making room.
That’s why I really love what the book of Proverbs teaches. “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
And maybe that’s what faith really looks like—not clinging to what we think should happen, but trusting that even our disappointments are being folded into something good.
If you find yourself staring at a door that won’t open, too, take heart. The God who closed it hasn’t gone anywhere. He still writes better stories than we do, and sometimes the best ones begin with a “not now.”
A MOMENT TO REFLECT
- Think of a time when your plans didn’t go the way you hoped. Looking back, can you see how God might have been protecting or redirecting you?
- Proverbs 16:9 reminds us that while we make our plans, it’s the Lord who establishes our steps. What steps are you trying to control right now that you might need to release to Him?
- “Surrender isn’t giving up—it’s making room.” What would it look like for you to make more room for God’s direction in your daily decisions?
- When disappointment hits, what helps you remember that God’s “not now” doesn’t mean “never”?
- Is there a door in your life that’s currently closed? What might it look like to trust that God still has His hand on the handle?
